Muskan was born with a hole in her heart, under-developed lungs, partial paralysis, and several other disorders. Doctors said she wouldn’t live for more than 100 hours. Muskan is now 16 years old and an inspiration to thousands. She has authored two books, is a motivational speaker, a radio show host, and much more. This is the story of her indomitable spirit.
Sustainable development summit: No caste in SDGs, Dalits want UN to rectify ‘critical lapse’.
Various Dalit rights groups have gathered in New York over the weekend to demand that the lapse be addressed by at least ensuring that the caste is recognised in the list of “indicators”, which will be used to monitor the implementation of the SDGs.
Written by Kavitha Iyer | New York | Published:September 28, 2015 2:25 am
While several of the goals are phrased to expressly state growth “for all”, Goal 10 deals specifically with reducing inequality within and between countries.
While inclusive development is one of the principles written into the 17 Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) adopted by the member nations at the United Nations last week, Dalit groups across South Asia have questioned whether the new goals are equipped to deal with exclusion and historic deprivation associated with caste.
While several of the goals are phrased to expressly state growth “for all”, Goal 10 deals specifically with reducing inequality within and between countries. One of the targets within Goal 10 is — “By 2030, empower and promote the social, economic and political inclusion of all, irrespective of age, sex, disability, race, ethnicity, origin, religion or economic or other status.”
That caste is not specifically recognised in the document, which was in negotiation for nearly three years, is seen by Dalit rights activists as a critical lapse.
Paul Divakar, chairperson of Asia Dalit Rights Forum, said the SDGs’ pledge to “leave no one behind” will remain handicapped by not specifically mentioning caste as a major cause for poverty and deprivation of opportunity.
“Discrimination based on work and descent (caste) is an important determinant for the exclusion of a large section of the global population… When age, sex, race, ethnicity, origin are mentioned, why leave 260 million Dalits out of the document,” he asked.
Various Dalit rights groups have gathered in New York over the weekend to demand that the lapse be addressed by at least ensuring that the caste is recognised in the list of “indicators”, which will be used to monitor the implementation of the SDGs. The indicators, including country-specific ones, are in the process of being finalised.
Among those gathered were Members of Parliament from Nepal, Pakistan and Bangladesh. Meen Bishwakarma, MP from Nepali Congress, said the country’s new Constitution had taken some historic steps in affirmative action, including guaranteed 13 per cent representation of Dalits in all levels of government.
“But India appears to block all efforts to allow caste to be recognised internationally as a major cause for exclusion. We are demanding that the issue of caste-based discrimination not be seen as simply an internal problem in India — there are Dalit communities across South Asia who are historically deprived,” he said.
Senator Gian Chand from Pakistan, himself a Dalit, said Pakistan’s estimated 25 lakh Dalits remain poorly represented in government processes. “We are demanding that India take the lead in recognising the issue. Other countries in the region will automatically follow,” he said.
India delays implementation of bigger tobacco pack warnings Reuters 12:15 PM IST Sep 29, 2015
New Delhi: India has decided to delay implementation of bigger health warnings on tobacco packaging by a year until April 2016, as pressure mounts on New Delhi to take urgent steps to reduce tobacco consumption which kills up to 900,000 people a year.
India had in 2014 said 85% of a cigarette packet's surface should be covered in health warnings, up from about 20% now. But the rules, originally to be enforced from April in 2015, were deferred after a parliamentary panel said it was reviewing how the industry will be impacted.
Anti-tobacco campaigners question the panel's decision to delay implementing bigger warnings, pointing out that one member of the committee owns a tobacco company. Two members have said there is no link between tobacco and cancer.
The tobacco industry in India has labelled the packaging rules "drastic" and "impractical". Thousands of companies manufacture and sell cigarettes in India, with ITC Ltd and Godfrey Phillips among the leading players.
New Delhi was under pressure to act after the high court in Rajasthan in July asked the central government to immediately enforce the new rules.
Health ministry officials said the latest directive, issued late on Monday, was to comply with the court ruling, but more time was being sought to allow the industry to change its packaging norms.
"Court order implementation is not feasible considering there are existing stocks in the market with old warnings," said a health ministry official, who declined to be named because he was not authorised to speak to the media.
India ranks 136th out of 198 countries that use health warnings to deter smokers, according to the Canadian Cancer Society.
Seema Gupta, an official at the Voluntary Health Association of India, said activists were unsure if the new rules will actually be implemented from April.
The water column height at epicenter location is: 449 m. Based on
historical earthquake and tsunami data, Tsunami Threat does not exist
for India. ITEWC INCOIS will monitor sea level changes near epicentral
region and report in case of tsunami threat.
Madras
High Court has directed the Centre to issue suitable direction to
manufacturers of helmets for two wheelers to provide helmet lock as a
component and not as an accessory. The Court said two helmets should be
given to people at the time of purchase of a vehicle.
Justice N
Kirubakaran, whose order has led wearing of helmet mandatory in Tamil
Nadu since July 1st, also said celebrities too could be roped in to
popularise the mandatory helmet rule.
Emphasizing the relevant
sections of Motor Vehicle Act, which mandated providing helmets to two
wheeler riders, the Judge asked the Centre to ensure two-wheeler
manufacturers to provide helmets confirming to the Bureau of Indian
Standards. The judge said, if helmet is provided by the manufacturer, it
will prevent use of sub-standard headgears.
Union Ministry of
Surface Transport had earlier submitted details regarding standard
designs and details of helmets. The Judge posted the matter to October
13th for further hearing.
The
Bombay High Court has restrained the Maharashtra government from
releasing water from Gangapur dam for the friday's Shahi Snaan in the
ongoing Nashik Kumbh Mela as many parts of state are facing a drought.
The
direction came during the hearing of a petition filed by H M Desarda, a
professor from Pune, against the state's decision to release one
Thousand Million Cubic water for every 'Shahi Snaan' during the Kumbh
Mela even though many parts of Maharashtra are facing a drought.
A
division bench of the Court said that the state government will have to
take prior permission from the court if it wanted to use the dam water
for Kumbh Mela.
Is there a best time to sleep? There is a saying that sleeping early and waking up early is good for your health. How true is that? Is it alright to sleep late and wake up late?
You actually have an amazing biological clock ticking inside your body. It is very precise. It helps to regulate your various body functions including your sleeping time.
From 11pm to 3am, most of your blood circulation concentrates in your liver. Your liver gets larger when filled with more blood. This is an important time when your body undergoes detoxification process. Your liver neutralizes and breaks down body toxins accumulated throughout the day.
However if you don't sleep at this time, your liver cannot carry out this detoxification process smoothly.
· If you sleep at 11pm, you have full 4 hours to detoxify your body.
· If you sleep at 12am, you have 3 hours.
· If you sleep at 1am, you have 2 hours.
· And if you sleep at 2am, you only have 1 hour to detoxify.
What if you sleep after 3am? Unfortunately, you won't have any time to actually detoxify your body. If you continue with this sleeping pattern, these toxins will accumulate in your body over time. You know what happens next.
What if you sleep late and wake up late?
Have you tried going to bed very late at night? Did you realize you feel very tired the next day no matter how much you sleep?
Sleeping late and waking up late is indeed very bad for your health. Besides not having enough time to detoxify your body, you will miss out other important body functions too.
From 3am to 5am, most blood circulation concentrates in your lung. What should you do at this moment? Well, you should exercise and breathe in fresh air. Take in good energy into your body, preferably in a garden. At this time, the air is very fresh with lots of beneficial negative ions.
From 5am to 7am, most blood circulation concentrates in your large intestine. What should you do at this moment? You should poop! Pass out all unwanted poop from your large intestine. Prepare your body to absorb more nutrients throughout the day.
From 7am to 9am, most blood circulation concentrates in your stomach. What should you do at this moment? Have your breakfast! This is your most important meal in a day. Make sure you have all the required nutrients from your breakfast. Not having breakfast causes lots of health problems for you in the future.
That's the way to start your day
There you are... the most ideal way to start your day. After fully detoxifying your blood during your sleep, you wake up fresh to inhale beneficial energy. Then you pass out unwanted poop from your large intestine. After that, you take in balanced nutrients to prepare your body for a new day.
No wonder people living in villages or farms is healthier. They sleep early and wake up early. They follow their natural biological clock.
Living in city, we have more difficulty in following this sleeping schedule. We have good lightning, TV and internet to delay our precious sleeping time.
Following your natural timetable
Once I know the importance of our biological clock, I try my best to follow it. If I wake up early, I usually start my day on the computer. But when I see the clock shows 7am, I know it's the best time for breakfast. So I'll try to have my breakfast before 9am for best absorption.
What if you're offered a night shift job? I recommend you to reject it even the salary is higher. For long term, you may need to spend more money for your health problems.
What if you have assignment to do until late at night? Well, why not sleep early and wake up earlier to do it? Just shift your work time from late night to early morning. You get the same time. But your body will appreciate it.
With this, try to follow this timing as close as possible. Make it your daily routine. I'm sure you will feel fresher and more energetic all day long.
One of the most powerful art pieces at Burning Man this year: the
sculpture of two adults after a disagreement with their back to each
other. Yet the inner child in both of them simply wants to connect and
love the other. Age has taught us much, but what we all can live without
is Ego, Pride, Vanity and Grudges that prevent us from forgiving and
moving ahead. The free spirit exhibited by children IS OUR TRUE NATURE.
From Whatsapp: Father is flying a kite. His son is watching him carefully.
After some time son says "Dad. Because of the string the kite is not able to go any further higher."
Hearing this, the father smiles and breaks the string.
The kite goes higher after breaking of the thread and then shortly after that it comes and falls on the ground.
The child is very dejected and sad.
The father sits next to him and calmly explains:
"Son, in life we reach a certain level of prosperity and then we feel that there are certain things in our life that are not letting us grow any further like Home, Family, Culture, Friendship etc. We feel we want to be free from those strings which we believe are stopping us from going higher."
"But, remember son. Going higher is easier than staying at the higher level."
"And friends, family and culture etc are the things that will help us stay stable at the high heights that we have achieved. If we try to break away from those strings our condition will be similar to the kite."
Moral
"Never go away from culture, family, friends and relationships as they help keep us stable while you are flying high."
Life is Beautiful Stay connected.
Bus Driver's Valiant Attempt to Save Youth Proves Futile-Good that passengers to cooperated to drive the patient 15km whith out stopping to get down. Humanity fought a good fight!
After 8 eight year long debate, finally NEPAL has adopted a constitution. By the way Woodrow Wilson wrote that "it is getting to be harder to run a constitution than to frame one." So the real work of uplifting masses in Nepal is Himalayan task, I wish legislators will unite and rise up to the occasion. All the Best Nepal !!
SSP and DM give it back to him. Similar justice need to be given to each and every wrong doing! Show the power of social media! People will change the way India/World is :)
Comedy scenes on Politics, Economy, National integration, Religion - Interesting thought provoking dialogues by A Veerapan via Nagesh and V.K.Ramasamy in Movie Rudra Thandavan(1978)
So Humanity is getting closer to knowing how this universe and life in universe came into being. Exiting time ahead with these type of researches and CERN LHC research on Higgs Boson. It may not be late when we discover how this social life sphere is functioning i.e
1.How one persons good or bad thoughts,words,action are recorded by the universe?
2.How it is evaluated?
3.How the result/outcome/reward/punishment is given back to one?
4.Life before birth and Life after death?
In my opinion there should a concrete science behind all this!!
For all of the above questions our ancestors around the world have given answers, what is right/truth we will know soon :)
Cooperatives like Gujarat Cooperative Milk Marketing Federation Ltd. (GCMMF) I.e AMUL is good example how collectives can ensure job creation, quality products and fair business practices.... cooperatives will distribute wealth, not concentrate as pvt industries does.
But for all that to happen and to ensure justness in operation, we need thousands of visionary sincere democratic inclusive bold innovative leaders...I think we have many rough diamonds are waiting to shine
A RUPEE NOTE - What it can teach u? Two lessons from 2 short stories
Prakash Iyer, MD, Kimberly-Clark Lever and Executive Coach from Pune shares two important management lessons he learnt from a 500-rupee note. Read on.
1. It happened some years ago but I can recall the evening like it happened just last week. I was in an audience listening to a motivational guru. The speaker whipped out his wallet and pulled out a five hundred-rupee note. Holding it up, he asked, "Who wants this five hundred rupee note?" Lots of hands went up. Including mine. A slow chorus began to build as people began to shout "Me!" "Me!" I began to wonder who the lucky one would be who the speaker would choose. And I also secretly wondered -- and I am sure others did too -- why he would simply give away five hundred rupees. Even as the shouts of "I want it" grew louder, I noticed a young woman running down the aisle. She ran up onto the stage, went up to the speaker, and grabbed the five hundred-rupee note from his hand. "Well done, young lady," said the speaker into the microphone. "Most of us just wait for good things to happen. That's of no use. You've got to make things happen." The speaker's words have stayed with me ever since.
'Simply thinking about doing something is of no use'
Our lives are like that. We all see opportunities around us. We all want the good things. But the problem is we don't take action. We all want the five hundred rupee notes on offer. But we don't make the move. We look at it longingly.Get up, and do something about it. Don't worry about what other people might think. Take action.
2. Several years later, it was another day, another time. And another motivational guru. As I watched him pull out a five hundred rupee note and hold it up for all to see, I thought I knew what he was going to do next. But he just asked a simple question. "How much is this worth?" "Five Hundred rupees!" the crowd yelled in unison. "Right," said the speaker. He then took the note and crumpled it into a ball and asked "How much is it worth now?" "Five Hundred rupees!" screamed the audience. He then threw the note on the ground, stamped all over it and picked up the note and asked one more time: "And how much is it worth now?" "Five Hundred rupees!" was the response. "I want you to remember this," said the speaker. "Just because someone crumples it, or stamps on it, the value of the note does not diminish. We should all be like the five hundred rupee note.. In our lives, there will be times when we feel crushed, stamped over, beaten. But never let your self-worth diminish. Just because someone chooses to crush you -- that doesn't change your worth one bit! Don't allow your self-worth to diminish because someone says something nasty -- or does something dirty -- to you."
The on-duty nurse took the anxious young Major to the bedside. “Your son is here,” she said softly, to the old man lying there. She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s eyes opened. Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Major standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Major wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement. The nurse, observing the touching moments, brought a chair so that the Major could sit beside the bed. “Thank you Ma’am!” a polite acknowledgement followed. All through the night the young Major sat there in the poorly lit ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the officer move away and rest awhile. He graciously refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, he was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital – the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients. Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night. Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Major released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited,
Finally, she returned,- & started to offer words of sympathy, but the Major interrupted her. “Who was that man?” he asked.
The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered. “No, he wasn’t,” the Major replied. “I never saw him before in my life.” “Then why didn’t you say something when I took you to him?” “I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn’t here!” The nurse listened on, confused. “When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he needed me, I stayed.” “So then what was the purpose of your visit here, at the hospital, good sir?”, the nurse queried of him. “I came here tonight to find a Mr. Vikram Salaria. His son was Killed in J&K last night, and I was sent to inform him.” ‘But the man whose hand you kept holding whole night was Mr Vikram Salaria!’ They stood in complete silence. There couldn’t be anything more assuring for a dying man than his son’s hand! The next time someone needs you, just be there! & Just stay!
We Are Not Human Beings Going Through A Temporary Spiritual Experience; We Are Spiritual Beings Going Through A Temporary Human Experience
Women is reintroduced to herself by Dr.JayanthaShri Balakrishnan Shares so many insights about Women's life cycle,Women's problems, Pitfalls, Emotional Turmoils, Approach required, Care required, Roles as Daughter,Daughter-in-law/Mother-in-law etc etc
Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has
revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87%
of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone
has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women
feel stressed.
What are we doing to our women? I'm biased, but
Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters,
daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends - we love them. Can you
imagine life without the ladies?
It would be a universe full
of messy, aggressive and egomaniacal males running the world, trying to
outdo each other for no particular reason. There would be body odour,
socks on the floor and nothing in the fridge to eat. The entertainment
industry would die. Who wants to watch movies without actresses?
Kids would be neglected and turn into drug addicts or psychopaths by
age 10. Soon, all-male world leaders would lose their tempers at the
slightest provocation, and bomb the guts out of each other's countries.
In short, without women and their sanity, the world would perish.
Yet, look at how we Indians, a land of spiritual people, treat them. At
an extreme, we abort girls before they are born, neglect them in their
upbringing, torture them, molest them, sell them, rape them and
honour-kill them. Of course, these criminal acts are performed by a tiny
minority.
However, a majority of us are involved in lesser
crimes. We judge, expect too much, don't give space and suffocate our
women's individuality. Imagine if you did this to men - won't they be
stressed out?
At a broader level, this isn't just about our
women. We Indians have a habit of exploiting anyone without power. As a
flip side, we are suckers for anyone with power.
We look up to
corrupt politicians, keep voting them back, and feel they have an
entitlement to loot us silly, because they are in power. In fact, we
love power so much that when power comes to a woman, we automatically
begin to regard her well too. Goddesses, female politicians, senior
mothers in a household with a firm grip on family power - they all get
our respect. Anyone else doesn't.
This kind of society, which
values power above equality and justice, doesn't achieve too much. These
societies remain like backward tribes, because they do not allow people
without power to come up, even though they may have many talents. When
we don't allow our women to come up, or create stress for them if they
do, we are not allowing half of India to come up. When we abuse our
power, we kill the exploited person's will to contribute to society.
When we believe powerful people are always right, and the less powerful
should be crushed, we resemble a jungle of animals. And animals don't
progress, humans do.
These regressive attitudes will take a
while to change. For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions
to reduce their stress levels. One, don't ever think you are without
power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone
she wished you would be. She doesn't like you? That's her problem. Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value
you - tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in
demand.Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways
to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you
that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can
tell him to take a hike.
Four, do not ever feel stressed about
having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but
not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your
life.You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per
cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make
four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay
if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody
remembers their job designation on their dying day.
Five, most
important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a
better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more
weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin
for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep
looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the
class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to
become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain -
stress.
So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are
beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to
take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of
coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer
what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next
time this survey comes, i don't want to see Indian women on top of the
list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile,
before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading
the newspaper.
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Have you ever been followed by someone known or unknown to you?
Has anyone made lewd comments, sung songs with sexual innuendoes, passed remarks about you or your body?
Has anyone flashed/exhibited his genitals to you in a public or private place?
Have you ever been touched, groped and fondled against your wish?
Has anyone asked or forced you to touch his/her genitals against your wish?
For many of us, particularly women, the answer to at least 2 of the questions posed above is in the affirmative; most times such experiences have occurred in our childhood or adolescence but not necessarily restricted to these stages. Would we term such experiences as sexually abusive? For many of us there would be some hesitation in doing so; a few others would unequivocally term the experiences as sexually abusive. What could be the reason for this divided opinion about what constitutes sexual abuse? For one, among many of us there is little clarity about sexual abuse. Can abuse happen without touching? What if the incident is a stray, one time experience? Doesn't 'abuse' mean something happening over a period of time, over and over again? Can people known and unknown to us be sexually abusive? Or is it only strangers who sexually abuse?
Child sexual abuse has existed in all societies for centuries. There are many definitions of child sexual abuse. The standing committee on sexually abused children (Bajpai, 2003) has defined Child Sexual Abuse as 'Any child below the age of consent may be deemed to have been sexually abused when a sexually mature person has by design or by neglect of their usual societal or specific responsibility in relation to the child engaged or permitted engagement of that child in any activity of a sexual nature which is intended to lead to the sexual gratification of the sexually mature person. This definition pertains whether or not it involves genital or physical contact, whether or not initiated by the child and whether or not there is a discernible harmful outcome in the short run.'
The United Nations has defined child sexual abuse as contacts or interactions between a child and an older or more knowledgeable child or adult (a stranger, sibling or person in position of authority, a parent or a caretaker) when the child is being used as an object of gratification for the older child's or adult's sexual needs. These contacts or interactions are carried out against the child using force, trickery, bribes, threats or pressure (UNICEF, 2003). In such circumstances the child is never able to make a free and informed decision and can never be said to have consented. The NSW Child Protection Council definition states, 'child sexual assault occurs when an adult or someone bigger than a child uses his power or authority over the child and takes advantage of the child's trust and respect to involve the child in sexual activity. In all cases the offender / abuser has more power than the child and misuses that power to take advantage of the child's.
Inherent in the various definitions are concepts of violation of trust, abuse of power, the child's inability to consent, the age differential between the abuser and the child, the cognitive, emotional, psycho-sexual development level of the child and the sexual intent of gratification. Thus sexually abusive acts against children encompass a range of behaviours along the non-contact-contact continuum and include the following:
Non-contact abuse or "Unsafe Actions" are:
Following or stalking a child Using sexually suggestive language with the child that includes lewd comments about the child or her/his body parts, stories or songs with a sexual overtone, sexual innuendos.
Showing the child pornographic material - pictures, films, videos or taking the child's pictures in semi nude or nude state or in sexually suggestive postures.
Watching the child undress, bathe, urinate or defecate or forcing the child to do all this in the presence of the adult.
Masturbating in front of the child Exhibiting one's genitals in front of the child or asking the child to do the same
Contact abuse or "Unsafe Touch" includes Touching, fondling, caressing, kissing the child's body parts including her/his genitals
Having the child touch, caress, fondle, kiss the body parts or genitals of the adult.
Masturbating the child Inserting finger, tongue, penis or any other object in the child?s mouth, vagina or anus.
Forced sexual intercourse or rape that includes both vaginal and or anal penetration.
Ten Myths & Facts about Child Sexual Abuse
Myth 1: Only strangers abuse children sexually Fact: Danger from strangers is only a small part of the problem. Research evidence world over indicates that in a majority of cases, (upto 85%) the child's relatives, family, friends or someone known and trusted by the child is involved
Myth 2: Both women and men sexually abuse children Fact: An overwhelming majority of those who sexually abuse children is men although women are the ones who spend most time with children. Only a small minority of women report to have abused children.
Myth 3: Men who sexually abused child are mentally sick or perverted Fact: Prevalence of child sexual abuse ranges between 30 to 85% in any society depending on the definition used for child sexual abuse. Mental illness on the other hand accounts for not more than 15% of the total population. If those who sexually abuse children were truly sick or perverted then we are living in a .sick and perverted. society. Unfortunately the men who sexually abuse children are often ordinary, respectable men holding positions of responsibility in the family, society, workplace and fulfilling their duties as per the demand of their role.
Myth 4:
Child sexual abuse happens only in poor or problem families Fact: Child sexual abuse cuts across classes, caste, religious and educational barriers and occurs irrespective of what the background of the abuser and the child is.
Myth 5: When children say they have been abused, it is often a figment of their imagination or fantasy. Fact: Most times, children are unable to disclose or talk about abuse. In rare instances, when they do talk, it is not their imagination or fantasy but very real; children need to be believed and supported if they talk about any sexual touching or if they express any reservations about interacting with particular adults.
Myth 6: Only beautiful or sexually precocious children are abused. Fact: All children, irrespective of their age, colour, family background, sexual knowledge are vulnerable to abuse. They are perceived as easy targets because of the power the abuser has and the inability of children to speak up or stop abuse.
Myth 7: Children enjoy being touched sexually, that is the reason they do not report sexual abuse Fact: Children do not report abuse for several reasons: They are afraid no one will believe them, they are afraid that the abuser may harm or kill them or their loved ones, they are afraid they will lose the love of their parents and near and dear ones, they do not have a language to disclose abuse. At no point does a child enjoy the sexual attention of an adult; children feel extremely overwhelmed and distressed by such attention irrespective of how their body responds to sexual touching.
Myth 8: We can tell if a child is sexually abused Fact: Children are experts at hiding their pain. It is difficult to say from external appearance if the child is sexually abused. However, adults need to be alert to any changes in the child's behavior, performance at school, emotionality, fear of certain places or people, resistance to go or meet some people and sleeping and eating patterns. A traumatic experience in a child's life is often expressed through indirect means. Also many children may not show any change in their behaviors or other patterns until much later.
Myth 9: Child Sexual Abuse can never happen in one's home. Fact: Almost 30-50% children are abused by persons known to them; relatives, family friends, neighbours, drivers, watchmen, doctors, religious leaders. Such abuse often takes place in one's home which is considered as a .safe haven.. The abuser enjoys the trust of the family members and has easy access to the child.
Myth 10: Boys cannot be abused Fact: Although more girls are reported to be sexually abused, (one in every four) research indicates one in every seven boy's world over are abused. These are just a few of the many myths that abound in every society. Myths help us in denying the fact the Child Sexual Abuse is very real, very personal; they keep us from scrutinizing the men we know, love and respect. They help us brush child sexual abuse under the carpet, falsely believing our own children cannot be abused and the abuser will almost always be unknown to us. It is time, as adults, as responsible adults who want to care for and protect our children to be alert, aware and stop child sexual abuse.
Bibliography:
Bajpai, A. (2003). Child Rights in India: Law, Policy and Practice, New Delhi, Oxford University Press UNICEF. (2003). The State of the World's children, NY, USA
* Dr Shubhada Maitra is currently Associate Professor and Chairperson, Centre for Health and Mental Health, School of Social Work, Tata Institute of Social Sciences, Deonar Mumbai. Her PhD thesis was on Mental Health Correlates of Child Sexual Abuse
Jayakanthan on Aram(Virtue/Justice/Righteousness) by Dr. Jayanthasri Balakrishnan
1. How Tamil Novelist Writer Jayakanthan has introduced/taught/researched on Virtue/sense of Justice/Righteousness/Humaneness in his short stories. 2. How can we upbring children in this danger filled world using Jayakanthan's stories. 3. About nature of women/wife/husband/children/neighbors/society.....who is a perfect husband .....level of trust needed in a relationship....what should be their behavior/attitude etc in a elegant beautiful and thought provoking way 4. She also talks about Bengals greatest director trio of Satyajit Ray,Shyam Benegal, Mrinal Sen...quotes about Mirnal Sen's 1979 movie Ek Din Pratidin to explain about the way the society looks at women.
5.Definition of Beauty!!
6. Agnipravesam's Ganga - On violence against women...boldness and perspective of her mother
7. On how Jayakanthan treats women in a decent/respectful way throughout his stories...a lesson for today's writers/directors/TV ad directors...
8.Warns us to be righteous using Thiruvalluvars "Marandhum Piranketu Soozharka Soozhin Aranjoozham Soozhndhavan Ketu" (பிறனுக்கு கேட்டைத் தரும்
தீய செயல்களை ஒருவன் மறந்தும் கூட எண்ணக்கூடாது, எண்ணினால் எண்ணியவனுக்கு
கேடு விளையுமாறு அறம் எண்ணும் - http://thirukuralmeaning.blogspot.in/2015/05/204.html) Never even think of harming others, virtue will plot to harm you in return!!!
Her speech is thought provoking and attitude shatering one. The captive audience of Erode Book Fair lecture series - 2015 sums up her depth of understanding, love and care for all.
Sunita Narain on status of Indian Agriculture today .... 1. we need to invest big time in weather sciences/ 25-30 per cent reduction was done in last yr annual budget... 2. prices are artificially "fixed"; and when shortages grow, government rushes to buy from heavily subsidised global farms. This cannot go on... 3....everything from cities and roads to ports and dams - must be built in a way that they are compliant with best environmental safeguards. 4.....our so-called crop insurance schemes are poorly designed and even more poorly executed. Once again, this cannot go on. For full article see http://www.business-standard.com/article/opinion/sunita-narain-end-the-killing-fields-115091300747_1.html
சவப்பெட்டிக்குள் இறந்த கணவன். அருகில் மனைவியும் குழந்தைகளும் சிரித்தபடி வெளியான புகைப்படத்தைப் பார்த்து அதிர்ச்சியடையாதவர்களே இருக்க முடியாது. அமெரிக்காவின் சின்சினாட்டியில் வசித்த 26 வயது மைக் செட்டில்ஸ் ஹெராயின் போதைப் பொருளை அளவுக்கு அதிகமாக எடுத்துக்கொண்டதால் மரணம் அடைந்துவிட்டார். அவரது மனைவி இவா ஹாலண்ட், “இந்தப் புகைப்படம் உங்களுக்கு அதிர்ச்சி ஏற்படுத்தலாம். என்னை மனிதாபிமானம் அற்றவளாகக் காட்டலாம். மைக்கின் கதையைக் கேட்டுவிட்டு, முடிவு செய்துகொள்ளுங்கள். மைக்கை சிறிய வயதில் இருந்தே காதலித்து வருகிறேன். திருமணம் மூலம் அழகான இரண்டு குழந்தைகள். ஹெராயினுக்கு மைக் அடிமையான விஷயம் எனக்கு தாமதமாகத்தான் தெரிந்தது. எவ்வளவோ பேசிப் பார்த்தேன். கெஞ்சிப் பார்த்தேன். அழுது பார்த்தேன். ஒருகட்டத்தில் உடல்நலம் மோசமாக பாதிக்கப்பட்டு, மறுவாழ்வு மையத்தில் 4 மாதங்கள் சிகிச்சை பெற்றுத் திரும்பினார். மகிழ்ச்சியான வாழ்க்கை திரும்பக் கிடைத்துவிட்டது என்று நினைத்தேன். ஆனால் சிறிது காலத்தில் மீண்டும் ஹெராயினை நாடிவிட்டார். எங்களைப் பிரிந்திருந்த மைக்கால் ஹெராயினைப் பிரிந்திருக்க முடியவில்லை. அளவுக்கு அதிகமான ஹெராயினை எடுத்துக்கொண்டு மனைவியையும் குழந்தைகளையும் தவிக்கவிட்டுச் சென்றுவிட்டார். ஹெராயினுக்கு என் கணவர் பலி ஆனார் என்று நான் எழுதினால் ஆயிரம் செய்திகளில் ஒன்றாக மாறியிருக்கும். எனக்கும் என் குழந்தைகளுக்கும் ஏற்பட்ட நிலை இன்னொரு குடும்பத்துக்கு ஏற்படக்கூடாது என்று முடிவு செய்தேன். விழிப்புணர்வு ஏற்படுத்தவே துயரத்தை நெஞ்சில் சுமந்துகொண்டு, கணவனின் உடலோடு சிரித்தபடி புகைப்படம் எடுத்து வெளியிட்டேன். நான் நினைத்தது போல மிகப் பெரிய தாக்கத்தை இந்தப் புகைப்படம் ஏற்படுத்திவிட்டது. நிறைய பேர் என்னிடம் ஆலோசனை கேட்கிறார்கள். எப்படியாவது தங்கள் கணவரைக் காப்பாற்றிவிடத் துடிக்கிறார்கள். சிலர் போதை பழக்கத்தை விட்டுவிடுவதாகக் கூறியிருக்கிறார்கள். எனக்கு இது போதும். மைக்கின் ஆன்மா என்னைப் புரிந்துகொள்ளும்” என்கிறார்.
Read this carefully and relate these 10 Commandments with your life and enjoy it ............
1) Heavy rains remind us of challenges in life. Never ask for a lighter rain. Just pray for a better umbrella. That is attitude.
2) When flood comes, fish eat ants & when flood recedes, ants eat fish.Only time matters. Just hold on, Nature gives opportunity to everyone!
3) Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship, it's not how we care in the beginning, but how much we care till ending.
4) Some people always throw stones in your path. It depends on you what you make with them, Wall or Bridge? Remember you are the architect of your life.
5) Every problem has (n+1) solutions, where n is the number of solutions that you have tried and 1 is that you have not tried. That’s life.
6) It is not important to hold all the good cards in life. But it’s important how well you play with the cards which you hold.
7) Often when we lose all hope & think this is the end, Nature smiles and says, `Relax dear it’s just a bend. Not the end'. Have Faith and have a successful life.
8) When you are sad, try to cheer up just go to the mirror and say, `Damn I am really so cute` and you will overcome your sadness.
9) One of the basic differences between Nature and human is, Nature gives, gives and forgives. But human gets, gets, gets and forgets. Be thankful in life!
10) Only two types of persons are happy in this world. First is Mad and second is Child. Be Mad to achieve what you desire and be a Child to enjoy what you have achieved.
Wonderful thoughts, thanks to the one who listed it!!!
Ganeshji is described as Ajam Nirvikalpam Niraakaaramekam. This means that Ganeshji is never born. He is Ajam (unborn), he is Niraakaar (formless) and he is Nirvikalpa (attributeless). Those who can't experience of the formless, over a period of sustained experience of manifested form reach the formless Brahman. So in reality, Ganeshji is formless; yet there is a form to which Adi Shankara prayed and that form carries the message of the formlesness of Ganeshji. The ritual of immersing (visaran) the idols after few days of worship reinforces the understanding that God is not in the idol, it's inside us.
With experiments in Large Hadron Collider( As of 2013, scientists are virtually certain that they have confirmed the Higgs boson exists, and therefore that the concept of some type of Higgs field throughout space is proven. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Higgs_boson ) we will be able to fully comprehend our ancient wisdom!
Read with patience the simple explanation about how the universe and we came into being and what is purpose in life....
Aathi enum param porul mei ezhuchi petru Anuvendra uyiragi anukkal koodi Mothi inaithu iyangukindra nilamaikerpa Moolakangal palavagi avai yinathu Pethita anda kodigalai mattrum Pirapu irapu idai unarthal iyakamagi Needhi neri unar mantharagi vazhum Nilai unarthu thodu aatri inbam kanbom
Vethathiri
[Rough translation: The empty space, the source of everything manifests as sub atomic particles, combines to form elements and numerous compounds by collision and combinations, emerges as present day universe, becomes the consciousness between birth and death, justice and righteousness knowing humans evolve, understand this stage and find happiness through serving others]
Ganesh chaturthi and all other festivities like that were devised with a hope that some day we will realise the meaning of them with improvement in awareness level. Happy learning on Ganesh chathurthi
WANTED PEONS:: 255 Phd holders, 25000 Masters holders and 23 lakh others have applied for 368 positions of peons in UP govt.
Unemployment Forces PhDs To Apply For Posts Of Peons
For 368 positions for peons at the Vidhan Sabha Sachivalay or state assembly in Lucknow, more than 23 lakh people have applied. Of them, 255 have doctorates in engineering, commerce and science and around 25,000 have master's degrees.
BY TEHELKA WEB DESK
The UP government has received 23 lakh people for 368 positions for peons at the Vidhan Sabha Sachivalay or state assembly in Lucknow. Of them, 255 have doctorates in engineering, commerce and science and around 25,000 have master’s degrees.
Prabhat Mittal, secretary, said, candidates applied online against the advertised posts. “We were shocked to see the response,” said Mittal.
What is more appalling is that two lakh applicants are at least armed with BTech, BSc, MSc and MCom degrees. Around 255 applicants have a PhD degree in hand.
All that the government wants in a peon is school education and bicycle-riding skills. Not even a written exam is needed.
To understand how best to tackle the deluge of applications for the post, the government is consulting experts. If so many candidates are to be interviewed, the selection process could take four years, say officials.
Applicants like Alok believe it is worth the wait; a peon’s job means a salary of at least Rs16,000 and all the benefits that come with being on the government’s payroll.
Officials believe soon, the staff sitting on benches outside government offices, waiting to deliver files or fetch water, could be those with doctorates in history, philosophy or psychology.
“It is possible after getting the job, these candidates might feel frustrated and other officials might hesitate in giving them orders,” said UP backward classes welfare minister Ambika Chaudhari.
"Only 60.5 per cent of persons aged 15 years and above who were available for work for all the 12 months during the reference period were able to get work throughout the year at All India level. In rural and urban sector, it was 53.2 per cent and 78.5 per cent respectively."
We need to worry about our unemployment rate than that of USA👥👳
Indian youth need to create their own jobs!! There are lot of scope in manufacturing and service provisions.
Ex: Organic long term food crops and products🍚, instead of factory manufactured biscuits and chocolate🍭, home made delicacies with few days shelf life, handlooms, handicrafts, cold pressed oil instead of factory refined oil, village tourism, baby sitting & household works to help working women and aged, coconuts instead of colas, hand grained atta/idli batter/chutneys instead of instants, cycle rickshaws instead of cars, more repairman instead of use and throw products, labour intensive local resources based dwellings..............but for this to flourish we need to create demand⏫ for it.............all this above may remind you of the great weapon of our freedom movement "charka"☺ Let our thoughts reveal keys to the problems of the day🙏🌍 Murugaram Jayabharathi
Delhi Metro Rail Corporation (DMRC) launched the first software based ‘Public Bicycle Sharing scheme (PBS)’ as per which commuters will now be able to take cycles on rent from a residential area and travel to the nearest Metro station and then again rent a cycle from a departing Metro station to the nearby localities. http://www.delhimetrorail.com/press_reldetails.aspx?id=C0KYrggV5Fslld
Vélib’ is a large-scale public bicycle sharing system in Paris, France. Launched on 15 July 2007, the system encompasses around 18,000 bicycles and 1,230 bicycle stations,[1] located across Paris and in some surroundingmunicipalities, with an average daily ridership of 85,811 in 2011.
If Delhi and Paris can do, Chennai can do it.... Remember we in our childhood used to hire tiny cycles during vacation... In Puducherry hiring a motorcycle by tourist is a normal practice....
India is trying to be the first country to become an industrial giant with an illiterate and unhealthy labour force-Amartya Sen
The Country of First Boys
Interview by MANJULA NARAYAN, SEPTEMBER 15TH 2015
Just before the release of his new book, The Country of First Boys, Nobel laureate Amartya Sen talks exclusively to the Hindustan Times‘ Manjula Narayan about our blindness to poverty, flaws of the Gujarat model, miniaturisation of great ideas by the Hindu right wing and interference in academia. ........... A recent report says the number of poor children in India is much higher than many countries in Africa.
Yes, and the undernourishment is enormously worse. The immunisation rate is not worse than Africa but not much better and certainly much worse than Bangladesh, and dramatically less than Southeast Asia.
Why are we still grappling with this after so many years?
I don’t think we have got the seriousness of the issue. I mean when people say that Gujarat was a successful economic model, they overlook the fact that, in terms of undernourishment, illiteracy, lack of immunisation, Gujarat has one of the worst records, and as the Economist magazine points out, under Modi’s chief-ministership, Gujarat’s position slipped down rather than slid up. It was slightly better than Bihar earlier and it became worse than Bihar. In some ways newspapers allow people to get away with this, as if infrastructure is just physical infrastructure; just roads and power. In fact, infrastructure is also education and health care. India is trying to be the first country to become an industrial giant with an illiterate and unhealthy labour force. I don’t think it can be done. To me, it’s one of the biggest problems.
A version of this article originally appeared in the Hindustan Times. Used with permission.
Is all this true?? Do we need to do something?? What will happen if we don't act? Inequality and socio political economic injustice may derail peace in our backyard!! With today's advancement in technology, young population, eagerness to progress...this country and world can soon become a better place, it is all within our individual capacity and choice. Murugaram Jayabharathi
‘Cycling burns fat and cars build fat’, ‘This burns calories not fuel’, ‘One cycle = One less car in the city’, ‘I go to office like this, why don’t you?’, ‘No carbon footprint’ ,‘No parking charges’ and ‘No Stress’. People thought cycling to work would affect my work but the result has been just the opposite,”
Sharath Nambiar who has been cycling to work since 2008 is a much-needed inspiration.
Traffic in Chennai is getting worse by the day. We all know that but do we do anything to find a way out of it? We still use cars and bikes to commute and deal with the nagging traffic every day.
Back in 2008, Sharath Nambiar decided he had had enough. He was no longer going to allow the traffic to take control of his schedule. An ardent fitness freak, he decided one day to cycle from his home in Tambaram to Dakshinachitra on ECR. He completed a distance of about 26 kilometres in 55 minutes. He usually took one to one-and-a-half hours to complete the journey in a car or bike. “I leave my house at 7.30 a.m. and reach my workplace in 55 minutes. This time has not changed over the years. I leave with my cycling gear, reach my workplace, take a shower and then change into office clothes,” he says.
And that’s how it started. Since 2008, Sharath, who is the chief operating officer at Dakshinachitra has been cycling to work every day. He promotes the “Cycle to Work” campaign, encouraging people to commute the healthy way.
He has stickers with quirky messages pasted all over his bicycle. Sample these — ‘I go to office like this, why don’t you?’, ‘No carbon footprint’, ‘No parking charges’, ‘One cycle = One less car in the city’, ‘No Stress’, ‘Cycling burns fat and cars build fat’ and ‘This burns calories not fuel’. “ People thought cycling to work would affect my work but the result has been just the opposite,” says Sharath. “Now, many others at Dakshinachitra have started cycling to work. I want people to make it an every-day routine.
I know the weather can be an obstacle but if you leave early in the morning, it becomes much easier. Once you start riding, you get used to it. Anyone who enjoys cycling can do this.”
What about the sweat?
“A decent shower at the office is all it takes to deal with this problem. If people are motivated enough, they will push the office management to invest in such a facility,” he says.
Inspired by him, many people have taken to cycling, but Sharath is not content. “I want the administration to take notice and work towards making Chennai a cycle and pedestrian-friendly city by having dedicated cycling lanes. Perhaps, as in countries such as Australia, the Netherlands, Denmark and Germany, we too can have certain lanes open only to cyclists and pedestrians.”
1. Live in your own place to enjoy independence and privacy. 2. Hold on your bank deposits and assets with yourself or your spouse. 3. Don't depend on your children's promise to care for you when you grow old, as their priorities change with time. 4. Expand your circle of friends to include those who will outlive you. 5. Do not compare, expect nothing from others. 6. Do not meddle in the life of your children. Let them live their life - not yours. 7. Do not use 'old age' as your shield and justification to demand 'care, respect and attention'. 8. Listen to what others say but think and act independently. 9. 'Pray' but do not 'beg' even from God; seek His grace. 10. And finally DO NOT RETIRE from your life.
இந்தியாவில் மனசாட்சியற்ற மருத்துவர்கள்: பகீர் 'ரிப்போர்ட்
06செப் 2015 00:39
பதிவு செய்த நாள் செப் 04,2015 23:28
லண்டன்: 'இந்தியாவில், பல மருத்துவர்கள் மனசாட்சியை அடகு வைத்து விட்டு, நோயாளிகளிடம் பணம் பறிக்கின்றனர்' என, உலகப் புகழ் பெற்ற, பி.எம்.ஜே., மருத்துவ இதழ், வெளியிட்டுள்ள ஆய்வுக் கட்டுரையில் தெரிவிக்கப்பட்டுள்ளது.
இந்தியாவின் முன்னணி மற்றும் பயிற்சி மருத்துவர்கள், தனியார் மருத்துவமனை நிர்வாகிகள் தெரிவித்த கருத்துக்களின் அடிப்படையில் வெளியாகி உள்ள அந்த ஆய்வறிக்கையின் விவரம்:பல்நோக்கு சிறப்பு மருத்துவமனையில் முதலீடு செய்வோருக்கு, லாபம் தான் குறிக்கோள். அதனால், அத்தகைய தனியார் மருத்துவமனைகள், மருத்துவர்களுக்கு, குறிப்பிட்ட தொகையை வசூலிக்க வேண்டும் என்று இலக்கு நிர்ணயிக்கின்றன. அந்த இலக்கை எட்டாவிட்டால், தங்கள் வேலை பறிபோகும் என்று மருத்துவர்கள் அஞ்சுகின்றனர்; மேலும், குறிப்பிட்ட காலத்திற்கு பயிற்சி பெற வேண்டிய கட்டாயமும் அவர்களுக்கு உள்ளது.அதனால், நிர்வாகத்தின் நிர்ப்பந்தத்தை அம்பலப்படுத்த முடியாத நெருக்கடிக்கு மருத்துவர்கள் ஆளாகின்றனர். இத்தகைய மருத்துவர்கள், மனசாட்சியின்றி, தேவையற்ற பரிசோதனைகளையும், அறுவை சிகிச்சைகளையும் மேற்கொள்ளுமாறு, நோயாளிகளை அறிவுறுத்துகின்றனர்.
சாதாரணமாக, துவக்க நிலையில் உள்ள, தொண்டை சதை வளர்ச்சி அல்லது குடல் வால் அழற்சி நோய்களுக்கு கூட, நோய் தடுப்பு மாத்திரைகளால் குணப்படுத்த விரும்பாமல், அறுவை சிகிச்சைக்கு பரிந்துரைக்கின்றனர். இதன் மூலம், நோயாளிகளிடம் பெருந்தொகையை கறந்து விடுகின்றனர்.நாட்டின் மருத்துவ சேவைகளையும், நிர்வாகத்தையும் கண்காணிக்க வேண்டிய பொறுப்பு, இந்திய மருத்துவ கவுன்சிலுக்கு உள்ளது. ஆனால், இதில் மருத்துவர்களே உறுப்பினராக உள்ளதால், தவறு செய்யும் மருத்துவர்களையோ அல்லது அவர்களை துாண்டும் மருத்துவமனைகளையோ, சட்டத்தின் முன் நிறுத்தி தண்டிக்க முடியாத நிலை உள்ளது.ஆகவே, உடனடியாக, இந்திய மருத்துவ கவுன்சில் சீரமைக்கப்ட வேண்டும். இந்திய மருத்துவ துறை சீர்பட, இத்தகைய நடவடிக்கை அவசியம்.இவ்வாறு அந்த அறிக்கையில் கூறப்பட்டுள்ளது.
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இங்கிலாந்தில், 1840ல், முதன் முதலாக, 'புரோவின்சியல் மெடிக்கல் அண்டு சர்ஜிகல் ஜர்னல்' என்ற மருத்துவ இதழ் வெளியானது. பின்னர், இது,'பிரிட்டிஷ் மெடிக்கல் ஜர்னல்' ஆக, மாறியது. 1988ல், சுருக்கமாக, பி.எம்.ஜே., என்று மாறி, 2014ல், 'தி பி.எம்.ஜே.,' என்ற பெயருடன், சர்வதேச முன்னணி மருத்துவ இதழ்களில் ஒன்றாக விளங்குகிறது.
This is alarming but we have so many good doctors out there who care for everyone's health than their income. To promote such good doctors society has to take initiative by providing easy access to medical education, good government hospitals with very good pay and fair administration of the hospitals and doctors with adequate freedom to perform. Better future is in our hand.
Madras
High Court has directed the Centre to issue suitable direction to
manufacturers of helmets for two wheelers to provide helmet lock as a
component and not as an accessory. The Court said two helmets should be
given to people at the time of purchase of a vehicle. 
